When we’re young we’re taught a lot of “good principles” we keep deep in our mind as we grow old. We consider them as undisputable and they really affect the way we act with other peoples in our adult life. The fact is at the time we’re in search of collective efficiency, those principles quickly become freezing elements.For example :
â€¢ One only succeed alone : if you’re a good professional you must succeed by your own. We believe in this so much that we prefer not to do anything or make it imperfectly rather than to say “I need other’s people skills, I need their help to make it right”.
â€¢ Never copy ! Remember when you were at school… Copying is good because it allows you to use your time to improve existing things rather thant re-inventing them. Without copy innovation is harldy possible. Cheating is bad. Not copying.
â€¢ Don’t help others ! Not only we were not suppose to copy from our neighbour, but it was reprehensible to let him copy from us. The consequence was we were nearly building around our exercices to be sure the teatcher would be sure we didn’t give others people any opportunity to copy from us. Years later it’s not easy to understand we have to collaborate and share…
â€¢ Don’t talk with people you don’t know ! so we hesisate to share and exchange with people who are in the same company, in the same team, with whom we share the same projects and objectives.
â€¢ Don’t talk about you ! So be sure nobody will notice your expertise and will offer you to collaborate in the more challenging projects.
The purpose was to set well-manered people. The result of all that is that the educationnal systems build autistic people at the time we need professionnals who are easy with collaboration and interaction. And it’s so hard to make people change when they’ve been fed with such principles for years.